TAKE A BREATH AND GET HEALED
Knocking your foot against a stone is something you can be able to get over in the nick of time but when it comes to matters of the heart that tug at your mind and emotions, it is not just the same. Emotional wounds are beyond “sadness”; they’re felt in the depths of your being.
Unplug, put time aside to reflect, and give yourself permission to grieve. If well-meaning people push you to “get over it,” ignore them because even though they mean well for you, it just does not work out that way. People want to believe that they are immune, or didn’t have any significant things happen to them as children. But, this isn’t true. All of us have early influences that stick with us today, and you are no exception.
The first thing each of us must do in order to heal the emotional damage is find the source. Sometimes, we can’t even remember what’s causing us to feel badly in the first place. If this is the case, the first step will be a remembrance.
Once we remember and recognize scarring, we must analyze it; we must pick it apart; we must go over it over and over in our heads until we have a perspective change that makes us embrace that event, but let it go. You may feel an overwhelming sense of relief, and a new sense of comprehension. You must come to terms with what has happened, how you feel about it, and how it has affected you, both positively and negatively.
You can’t heal what you never reveal,” and this a truth that many people choose to avoid.
-Shawn Corey Carter ‘Jayz ‘
Do you think you were made more resilient because of this event? Take that into consideration, and then forgive whoever has caused you such emotional grief. It may not be an easy process for some, but forgiveness is the key to moving on, letting go and healing.
Keep healing, even after you think you’re finished. You may experience such a powerful change in perspective that makes you think you are completely healed. You may very well be, but many times, you aren’t quite there yet.