If you’re a people pleaser, then you probably tend to put other people’s needs ahead of your own. Maybe you want approval from others or have been taught to always give to others. It’ll take some time to adjust, but start by saying “no” to some things instead of “yes” to everything. Create some boundaries and make your voice heard and your opinion matter. Above all, make time to care for yourself.
Recognize that you have choices. If someone asks or tells you to do something, you have the choice to say yes, no, or maybe. You don’t have to say yes, even if you feel like you do. When someone asks you something, take a moment and remember that how you respond is your choice.
Learn how to say “no.” If you tend to always say “yes” to things even when you don’t want to or when situations cause you stress, start saying “no.” It might take some practice, but let people know when you can’t do what they want. There’s no need to make excuses or talk your way out of it. A simple “no” or “no thank you” will do.
Be assertive and empathetic. If a flat “no” seems harsh to you, be assertive while also being empathetic. Show your understanding for the person and their needs, yet also be firm in saying that you cannot help them.For example, say, “I know how much you want a nice birthday cake for the party and how much that means to you. I’d love to provide one, but I’m unable to do that at the moment.”