REJECTION IN A RELATIONSHIP? TAKE IT LIKE AN OWNER NOT A VICTIM
Rejection hurts! It really does hurt, there is no better way to say this but some things just have to happen. Rejection means the same for the little girl who got butted out of a playing group to the teenager who has never been accepted by her peers down to the grown woman who has been made to feel lesser than she actually thought she is worth.
When things do not go as you had envisaged, don’t drown yourself in sorrow and refuse to lifted above the rubbles. you need to rise.
Be conscious of differences in human perception. This expectation-reality gap often gives rise to feelings of rejection and hurt in people. The first step to avoid unwarranted feelings of rejection is to acknowledge this difference.
Each person in this world has a different reality. In any given situation, two people can never think or react in exactly the same way. No one else sees the same world as you do.
Avoid taking every outcome personally. When it comes to relationships, all possible sources of rejection are not so simple. Feelings of rejection can be caused by issues like your everyday expectations not being met by your partner, an incidence of infidelity or a real shocker like a sudden announcement by your partner of their desire to leave.
In such cases, it’s not possible for you to be prepared for the feelings of rejection. It’s real. It hurts and you have to deal with it. The healthiest and quickest way to recover is to find a sense of belonging through other connections.
Shift your focus from your partner. Use the pain of rejection to find other reasons to live. Pick up an old and forgotten hobby, maybe. Pursue it and connect with like-minded people. You’ll find you’re able to derive emotional nutrition from these connections.