PULLING OUT OF THE YELLING CYCLE
Many of today’s parents refrain from hitting as a form of discipline, but there is still something many of us do that can be just as bad – yelling! Even in otherwise loving homes, yelling, cursing or insults can have many of the same effects as hitting and can lead to depression, anxiety, and low self-esteem in kids.
Here are tips that will help you become a more peaceful parent and give your kids more restorative corrections:
Help Your Children Explain Their Feelings
Before you lose your cool because your child has misbehaved, figure out what is causing the behaviour. One of the biggest reasons toddlers and younger children misbehave is they simply haven’t learned an alternative approach to displaying their feelings. As parents, we need to teach our children how to express themselves by validating their feelings without validating their behaviour.
Turn Your Voice Into a Whisper
Even when you’re not angry, you may find yourself yelling “Get in the car! We’re late for practice!” If you make a softer voice a habit, you’ll be less prone to yell at other times too.
Avoid being the dysfunctional mum who is never wrong
Good parents always make a point of modelling positive behaviours, even if it means admitting they were wrong. Some people think apologies are a sign of weakness, but the opposite is true. Adults always take responsibilities for their actions. How can we reasonably expect our children to accept consequences if we don’t apply that same standard to ourselves?