“We are sorry to inform you that you were not selected for the next stage of the interview…”
I remember back in the day when I was fresh in the corporate world, I saw this line in a couple of emails I received from companies I had applied to for a job position. I often felt demoralized and depressed each time I got one of such emails.
It was so bad that there were times when I began to question myself – “Am I really good for anything?” “Why can’t I just move to the next stage of an interview?” “Am I really not good enough?” These and many more questions like this plagued my mind and I always felt sad.
It wasn’t until my big sister had a talk with me and taught me to stop seeing “NO” as a negative word which meant rejection but instead to see it as a positive word which means “NEW OPPORTUNITIES”. At first, I couldn’t for the life of me understand what she was going on about but as an HR personnel, she took her sweet time to explain to me the influence, the power words have on our minds.
Seeing “NO” as rejection always made me feel depressed and caused me to have low self-esteem but tweaking it a little and seeing it in the positive light as New Opportunities caused me to not only reject the rejection but caused me to move on faster to the next available opportunity.
The trick on my mind was I no longer had to question my worth or qualifications. As my sister told me, whenever you are not appreciated or valued or even rejected, it is always a loss to the person rejecting you and a big gain to the next person who appreciates you and what you have to offer.
Never again let the word “NO” have the power of negativity over you. Change your perception of it to the positive and move on the next chance available to you. The word “NO” is not a reflection of you as a loser or inadequate. That your worth is not seen or valued in a place doesn’t mean you are no good.
Instead, you are provided with new opportunities to push more. How can you do this?
First, let’s do the analysis.
On what basis were you rejected? Is it really the fault of the person not seeing your values enough or is it that you don’t really have the qualifications or requirements to fetch you a “YES”?
If the latter be the case, you are granted a new opportunity to go work on yourself. Learn those skills that would enhance or boost your credibility. Hone that innate talent until it outshines all the “NO”s you have ever received.
If the former is the case, then move ahead quickly with the speed of light to the next best place. No need throwing yourself a pity party and feeling gloomy. There is nothing wrong with you. You are great as you are. That the person doesn’t value you is a reflection of who they are and not on your person. It’s their loss and the gain of another out there.
So, be it a job application, a relationship, or anything, never see the word “NO” to mean rejection but instead “NEW OPPORTUNITY.” Steve Maraboli said, “Every time I thought I was being rejected from something good, I was actually being re-directed to something better.”
It’s that simple. Keep evolving until you become the very best of yourself.