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Faking it till you make it might be cool but having the real deal is more appealing.

Aside from believing in your skills and abilities, there are other ways to boost your confidence. Start integrating some valid habits and actions into your day-to-day and you’ll kickstart a virtuous cycle of confidence that will unlock doors and broaden your horizons.

Adopt A Beginner’s Mindset 
If you’re in your 40s, you may think that your days as a student are well behind you. If that’s the case, you’re missing an opportunity to give your self-esteem a lift. Try to think of yourself as a lifelong learner and approach everything you do with a beginner’s mindset.
By being eager, unbiased, and willing to learn, you’ll be more receptive to learning new things. And remember: with knowledge comes power.
Take care of your body 

It’s hard to feel good about yourself if you’re abusing your body. Skimping on sleep, eating an unhealthy diet, and refraining from exercise will take a toll on your well-being. Studies consistently show physical activity boosts confidence.


A lot of high self-esteem has to do with social acceptance. You are prone to seek acceptance from others, as they are from you.

Smiling will make people around you feel accepted by you. When the barista hands you your coffee in the morning, thank him and give him a smile. When your Uber picks you up from the airport, smile. When your boss criticizes your work, flaunt a smirk.

A smile can be used in more than one occasion. It can show gratitude, it could accompany a request, it may be used to convey understanding or just good will.

Challenge yourself 

Once you have built a stream of successes that make you feel good about yourself, you can then move on to harder goals. Make sure that you also keep a list of all your achievements, both large and small, to remind yourself of the times that you have done well.

Instead of focusing only on “to-do” lists, I like to spend time reflecting on “did-it” lists. Reflecting on the major milestones, projects and goals you’ve achieved is a great way to reinforce confidence in your skills.

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