How would you react hearing that your teenage daughter was caught making out with a guy in the neighbourhood?  Like most of our parents, that child would be beaten and forced to believe kissing is a sin which ultimately leads to pregnancy. I am sure the only sex conversation some of us had as teenagers, were with our mothers and this was because we had just started menstruation; the two major advise then was ‘don’t talk to guys and don’t allow guys touch you because you will get pregnant.’

Sex and everything around it is not something we freely talk about in this part of this world; it is a very sensitive topic only discussed amongst the elderly. But with the recent increase in child rape, rape, sexual assault and it’s like this conversation is now beginning to get the necessary attention it once sought for.

As parents in this part of the world, dealing with sex-related discussions is a lot of work talk more about dealing with teen romance. It will be surprising to note that some of our parents still don’t know how to own discussions like this and they end up scaring the child away.

Teen romance is not a new phenomenon and I am sure it is something we all experienced at some point in our lives. Every now and then, teenagers crush on their peers, celebrities and are actively engaged in the ‘hunt for a partner’; knowing how to handle this stage and own this discussion as a parent is important in other not to sound judgemental or cause more harm than good in your teenager’s life.

How should parents handle the teen relationship?

  • Whatever you do, don’t ridicule your kid no matter how unrealistic the crush or inappropriate the relationship. Your child’s feelings are real and should be respected.
  • Communication is key. If you make fun of his or her feelings, your child may become secretive about this one as well as future relationships.
  • Try not to be judgmental. Discuss with your child what is important, in your family, about dating, sex and the bottom line when it comes to who your kid can become involved with.
  • If you have reason to believe that the relationship has gone too far (the kids are experimenting sexually, for instance), you must step in.  First, talk with your child alone, and discuss the reasons for refraining from sexual activity (the possibility of sexually transmitted diseases or pregnancy).
  • Some kids can be sneaky at times so it is important to have a curfew, stay involved in that child’s life, don’t allow that child stay home alone without a responsible adult present and if possible randomly check up on the other parent especially when your child sets up a sleepover at his or her friend’s house.

To end this piece, read below this interesting post I found on Instagram about a young girl whose parents took her teen romance affair to the extreme and due to their actions, she isn’t the same anymore.





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