The funniest and saddest part about a bruised heel is that no other person knows what you except you. More often you limp in silence and hoping the pain goes away, sometimes it does and sometimes not so quick. Life beats and kicks even the best of us, in all of this, we can’t afford to dwell in the pain.
Life altering events can be difficult at the best of times. Even when we anticipate them, look forward to them and plan for them, it can still be challenging when they roll out. What about when something happens that permanently changes life in ways you would never want? Now that’s a whole other story! If it was a sudden and unexpected change, even worse. This just seems like Life hauling off and giving you a whopping sucker punch. It hurts; causes internal injuries to your heart and soul.
If it were the ribs, knee or any other physical part of the body that got damaged, no problem, off to the doctor we go, most of us willingly and without hesitation. If it is the psyche that takes the blow – the mind, soul and spirit – there is much more reluctance to seek help. Many of us do not ever even acknowledge consciously that we have been hurt. We bury it instead. Why is this?
There is still a shroud of shame and secrecy hovering around emotional “damage”. Vulnerability and human fragility generate fear. When unforeseen things happen that shatter life as we know it, it lights up these “weaknesses” like a blinking neon billboard. Deep down we all know that none of us are guaranteed immunity from life’s curve balls. We don’t like being reminded of that, whether one comes flying at us or we see one smack into someone else. So we close in, close down, stay quiet, maybe even try to appear the opposite to how we feel – strong. Perhaps it’s best to just get through it somehow; not sure how, but somehow. It seems better and easier to not talk about it.
We deserve more than that, and that is the importance of healing. We are whole beings, not a bunch of separate snap on parts put together like little plastic building blocks. We are physical, cognitive, emotional, spiritual beings with all four aspects intricately woven together to form a unique mesh that we call me. If one part of us is hurt, the whole is affected.
So how do you get that healing you deserve?
- Be yourself. You must be yourself.
- Invent yourself. You come with attributes, capacities and proclivities and you are molded in a certain environment. …
- Love and be loved.
- Get a grip on your mind.
- Forget the past.
Listen, I know what you went through truly hurt you. It almost broke you. But the truth is, you’re still here. You are still growing every day. You are still making it. In spite of what happened to you, how they hurt you, you are still here! You may have been victimized, but you no longer have to be the victim. You have to remind yourself daily who you are. You are not what you’ve been through. Don’t let that define you. That was just your circumstance, but it’s not who you are.
Tell yourself every day who you are and who’s you are. You’re not a victim. You’re resilient. You’re strong. You’re an overcomer. You’re a survivor. You’re better. Remember who you are!
It’s about time to rewrite that story.