DEALING WITH YOUR STRONG-WILLED CHILD
Some parents have said that peaceful parenting wouldn’t work, or hasn’t worked, with their strong-willed child, that they need a more strict approach. And indeed each child is unique and each parent-child relationship is both unique and complex.
Yet, I believe that peaceful parenting is especially important for the very strong-willed spirited children who can feel so deeply and passionately. The more traditional authoritarian parenting approaches can result in a lot of unnecessary and heart-breaking conflict and power struggles for parent and child alike.
Don’t make yourself the enemy by making it your way or the highway. Being a dictator as a parent will only drive your child away from you and make you the enemy.
Some parents want their strong-willed child to listen and obey above all else, so they become forcefully strict in their parenting.
They need to make choices: Offer them options. Love and Logic parenting methods can work quite well with strong-willed children. This parenting method emphasizes offering options to children. How it works is that from even the youngest of age, a child will be offered two choices for most daily decisions. This allows the strong-willed child to be the decision maker for themselves.
Strong-willed children need to know the reasons behind a request. If you are asking them to stop jumping on the bed, your request for their obedience needs to be explained. They have a strong will, which also means a strong need to understand the “why” behind things.
Explain to your child jumping on the bed that you don’t want them to get hurt or break a bone like you did when you are a kid.
Strong willed children are determined individuals. If their spirit is not squashed, they can use that determination to become successful people as adults.