FOOD FOR THOUGHT! CAN I POSSIBLY BE EVERYONE’S FAVE?
Human beings are wired to want to be loved, our rationale for us to get validation is for us to act in a way that is dishonest with who we truly are. Plenty of people have this tendency to conduct themselves in a way they think the people around them would like to behave or be.
We seek validation and to feel accepted by others at the expense of behaving honestly with who we truly are.
Believe it or not, the majority of people would all like to be loved by everybody around them.
After all, being loved by everybody sounds pretty great, right?
To know that every time you step outside, that everybody in the world would welcome you with open arms and joyous smiles!
Sorry to burst your bubble, but being loved by everybody is not necessarily a good thing.
Here’s the deal.
Everybody in the world has their own specific preferences or things they like unique to them. What you like may not be the same thing your school mates, coworkers or anyone else likes. Sure, there is such a thing as having shared interests, values, and hobbies, but the cold hard truth is that everybody’s lifestyle choices and what they hold important to them… are different.
Accept that you are going to be loved by some people and naturally disliked by others. The problem with trying to be liked by everybody is that you will find yourself constantly changing who you are.
Depending on who you surround yourself with, at the drop of a hat, you’ll find yourself altering yourself to fit their expectations. This results in you living dishonestly with who you truly are and not having any actual sense of identity. You merely cannot please and be loved by everyone. It is impossible — so stop trying.
Stop trying to act tough, or funny or quiet, or loud if that isn’t how you want to act. You do not have to pretend that you like something you actually don’t.
Stop trying to impress people. You don’t have to prove anything. Remember, there are millions of people in the world.
You are going to click with some people and you are not going to get along with some others — and that will be okay. Life is about compatibility and incompatibility and it is your job to find the compatible.
So, step out in the world and promise yourself to start living honestly!
There is a freedom that comes along with expressing yourself wholeheartedly.