BUILDING AN UNSEEN YET VALUABLE CONNECTION
Attention has become one of the scarcest resources — and one of the most valuable. People who can truly listen have a unique edge in a world fragmented by distraction. They deal not just with stimulus but with engagement, not just with interaction but with the connection.
By listening, of course, we’re not talking about “hearing” people or even tracking what they mean. Listening goes beyond comprehension. To listen is to be fully present to what someone else is saying, to process their words without distraction, and to seek to understand them before trying to be understood ourselves. Listening is the currency of rapport, and the window into trust, connection, and mutual engagement. The quality of our conversations, our relationships, and our reputations all hinge on how well we can do this one simple activity.
Connect on an emotional level
This is crucial in developing meaningful relationships. When you listen to someone emotionally, you show empathy. When you empathize, you recognize that someone else is as real as you. Empathy is one of the most endearing and resonating emotional connections you can have with someone else.
A pinch of questioning does not hurt
Remember always, their story should take greater priority over your story. Questions prevent you from talking about yourself. It might sound simple and straightforward, but the next time you catch yourself worrying about a lull or making a good first impression, ask yourself questions so you prompt yourself to listen. Think about, and feel, what the other person said. Asking questions will prevent a common mistake, which is focusing on yourself instead of other people. It sets the stage for you to form an emotional connection with someone.
Let humour do the right job
The hard truth is, humour doesn’t make you memorable. Humour is just seasoning. It shouldn’t be the main ingredient in the recipe of your conversation.
A lot of people try too hard to be funny. They force humour when it’s not there. Yet humour breaks the emotional tension that’s building. Although you might find tension awkward and uncomfortable, it can be equally powerful if you use it correctly.