BONDING TIME! CONNECTING WITH OTHERS OVER FOOD
No matter what our cultural background is, the preparation and eating of food is something we all have in common with one another. But food is much more than nourishment; it is the vehicle through which we communicate sentiments, express our creativity and create memories. And it is in the sharing of food with others that keeps us connected.
The kitchen may be known as “the heart of the home,” but the table is equally important. In our busy, plugged-in and over-scheduled lives, eating meals at the table together is often neglected for meals “on the go.” The table is where we gather, not just to eat, but to talk, share, and connect. Food gets people talking; it facilitates conversation and debates, prompts people to ask each other questions and acts as the medium by which we strengthen and nurture our relationships. Gathering around the table is also a way we can show others hospitality, teach children manners, preserve traditions, and create memories; it is one of life’s greatest joys.
Here are some ideas for connecting with others through food and gathering:
Prepare Meals Together
Make a weekend pancake breakfast with your children or spouse. Give every family member a specific (and age-appropriate) meal preparation task. Involve dinner guests in meal preparation—most everyone likes to help in some way!
Eat Together as a Family
Make it a point to eat meals (especially dinner) together. Eating dinner together is a great way for everyone to catch up with each other and share stories about their day. Turn off the TV, cell phones, and other electronic devices and use the time to talk, practice table manners, and extend hospitality.
Plant a Garden
Whether you have a dedicated space of your back yard with raised beds or a few small pots on the patio, grow something yourself. Teach children how to care for plants and how to harvest or buy fruits or vegetables. There is a great sense of accomplishment that is felt when you eat something that you have nurtured and grown yourself.
One of the great things about food is that it can be made to be portable, so gathering together to eat doesn’t have to just happen around a kitchen or dining room table. Pack a picnic and take it to your local park or to the beach. Take a weekend camping trip. Host a potluck. Organize a progressive dinner party.
Serve Food Family Style
If your table is large enough, bring the food you have prepared to the table with each component of the meal in its own bowl or platter. Pass the plates of food to each other and help serve the food to the person sitting next to you. This is a great way to get people talking, for table manners to be put into practice, and for hospitality to be extended to everyone around the table.
Make it Special
It’s very easy to give in to the go-go-go nature of our daily lives, which is all the more reason to slow down at mealtime. Set the table with placemats or a tablecloth. Forgo using paper plates and disposable cutlery and use your dishes and flatware. Place a candle at the table. Use cloth napkins. Wait to start eating until everyone has been served their food. Say grace together before eating.