A GUIDE TO BECOMING EMOTIONALLY INTELLIGENT
Emotional Intelligence is a skill set we all need to acquire. Emotional intelligence is the capacity to be aware of, control, and express one’s emotions, and to handle interpersonal relationships judiciously and empathetically.
It is the solution to a lot of issues that come our way at work and in relationships generally. Here are the guides you need to master this skill set:
This is the first and most important step because without this we can’t evaluate what skill set we have or that which we lack or which skill set needs improvement. The definition of self-awareness says it all,
Self-awareness means having a deep understanding of one’s emotions, strengths, weaknesses, needs, and drives.
People with this skill set are not overly critical or unrealistically hopeful. They know how their feelings affect them, people and their job performance. They have self-deprecating sense of humour. How do you acquire this if you lack it? Write down who you perceive yourself as: jot down your strengths and weaknesses. Also, take a survey among at least ten of your friends and note areas you need to work on.
The ability to regulate our emotions and not act on impulse. Take some time to reflect before acting out, the trick to this is mindfulness. It is so easy to act on impulse, when this happens, do a mental arithmetic or breathe deeply or do a mini meditation. This will help calm your emotions when you feel it surging.
This is the innate desire to achieve and accomplish things. In life there will be high and low moments, during the down times the only way to stay motivated is to have a track recorded of all our accomplishment not leaving out the little accomplishments. The process of doing this is the progress principle
This means essentially having compassion for people. With compassion we are able to feel what other people are going through and it gives us the drive we need to help them. The world will be a better place to live if a lot of people had this skill set.
This is the ability to build and manage rapport with a goal in mind. It can also be defined as friendliness with a purpose . It isn’t difficult to acquire this ability at all, it’s cumulation of the first four; when we are self-aware and we know how to manage our emotions it becomes easy to build our relationship with others.
We must not only master all this guide, we must equally find a balance