How’s your social life? Do you enjoy the people you hang out with? Are they supportive and encouraging?

Here’s the thing about relationships: They are critical to who you are, what you value, and your emotional well-being. If you find that your social circle is not what you would like, the first thing you need to understand is that you can do something about it.

How to build a healthy and positive social circle

Embrace Your Worth

People with poor self-image tend to surround themselves with others who have little to offer. This allows them to feel accepted and perhaps, a bit superior.

If this sounds like you, it’s time for some self-assessment. None of us are perfect, but all of us have something valuable to share with others. Make a list of your strengths – you will probably be surprised.

Focusing on what you have to offer will change your attitude. You will hold your head up a bit higher; you will initiate conversations; you will have more confidence. People respond to these behaviors. You might even become friends with folks you’ve never thought to hang out with.

 Focus on Quality

We all know people who seem to have huge circles of friends and acquaintances. They are extroverts who have “never met a stranger”. They are able to strike up conversation anywhere, with anyone. Sometimes, we envy them.

You can choose to focus on quantity or quality – but the best choice is quality. When you have a smaller social circle, but it’s comprised of people who support and encourage you, folks who are there when you need them and whom you can trust, then you have great social circle already.

Not that your inner loop shouldn’t widen – it should. But being selective means that you segment out acquaintances (and who may not be especially healthy for you). Keep them at arm’s length and draw the true supporters close.

It’s Not All About You

Get over yourself and your self-doubt. Make your approach all about them. Ask questions, and then actively listen to those responses. Show genuine interest. People tend to warm up to these types of advances.


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