You should be your own boss at least in your mind because we all know that not all of us are cut out for entrepreneurship.

However that isn’t always the case and sometimes we let the noise interfere with our thought process, decisions and actions. So, what are the five elements that we might need to be on the look out for if we are to move forward?

1. Your Past

It is easy to fall into the habit of letting our past control our present and our future plans. It’s a costly mistake to allow our past hold us in bondage, we have to leave the pain of our past behind so it won’t ruin our lives. We must never allow the hurt we once felt influence the decisions we make in our present. Let the hurt go! It is painful, yes! But you must drop the heavy baggage of hurt, pain, sadness, depression if we want to move forward else they keep holding us back and they will block our sight to the possibilities of joy and happiness life has in place for us.

2. Other People’s opinions

This is a trap we all easily fall into. Never allow people’s opinions and judgement get to you. Here, discernment is key and you should regularly check who you allow to give you counsel.

Don’t take anything personally. Nothing others do is because of you. What others say and do is a projection of their own reality, their own dream. When you are immune to the opinions and actions of others, you won’t be the victim of needless suffering. ~ Don Miguel Ruiz

3. Self Doubt

This is a setup and the inevitable result is stagnation. It is as a result of negative comments we have repeatedly heard people say to us or negative thoughts we inflict on ourselves when we compare our lives to that of others. The good news is, it’s a habit we can unlearn and the first step to this is self acceptance. Accept your strength and identify your weakness.

4. Relationships

If you constantly feel the need to be in a relationship before you can be happy then you’re one step away from unhappiness. Your validation shouldn’t come from your partner or a prospective one but it should come from God and what his words says about you. You have to be consciously aware of who you are so you wouldn’t settle for less than you deserve when picking a partner.

5. Money

Money has a strong hold on almost everyone, money in its self isn’t a bad thing. In fact, before we can be of help to anyone we have to have money but the important thing is that money shouldn’t allow our decisions to be controlled by money. When we start to seek only money and not value then we have giving money the control over us. The amount of money involved shouldn’t be the only question we ask ourselves when making decisions, we should also ask what value we’ll be bringing to the table.


Over the past week, have you second-guessed yourself? allowed people’s opinions to get to you or removed your focus from the needful for other reasons that have distracted you? It’s not too late to do a 180 but it is time to rein it in. The first step is acceptance and once you’re there, you can start doing the work it takes to make you better.




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