Our first thought when we hear the word friendship is two people or a group of people who care about each other. However, that definition doesn’t begin to do justice to the concept of friendship. Your friend should be the first person you want to talk to when something happens, whether bad or good. Your friend should be able to understand your moods and the way your mind works.
They will join you in doing the most random things, accompany you on boring outings and make it fun. Your friend remembers that you don’t like sugar in your cup of tea, or that you’d choose boiled egg over fried eggs…
Personally, I think the word friendship has been misused too many times. You meet someone for the first time, and a few hours later, you’re calling them your friends. Friendship has a deeper meaning than that. I’m not saying friendship at first glance isn’t possible. The kind where you
meet someone for the first time, and there is this special connection, and once you start talking, the flow is magical. That is very possible, but sadly, that’s not the case most times. To call someone your friend means you can vouch for them anytime, any day… And sometimes, it involves putting your integrity on the line.
Social media gives us an avenue to make new friends every day. Chatting constantly with a person can give us the illusion that we’re close friends with that person. However, the same social media also gives us the option of unfriending the person with just one click of a button. That’s not how friendship works… You can’t just press a button in your heart and stop caring for someone, can you?
This is not to say that true friendship can’t be birthed from social media platforms, but one can know about everything going on in a person’s life, but nothing about what’s going on in their hearts. True friendship is more of the latter.
Much ink has been spilled already in writing about the qualities of a good friend and how we should identify them. But the big question is, “are we, good friends, to others?” These qualities we want in a friend, do we possess even a semblance of it? We attract what we are, not what we want. So if we want something, then we should reflect it.