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SIGNS THAT YOU MIGHT BE AN HELICOPTER PARENT

Overparenting usually stems from a parent’s desire to manage their own discomfort as they can’t tolerate watching their child get hurt, fail, or make a mistake. Ongoing hypervigilance and overindulgence can have serious consequences such as stunting a child’s development and causing a child to become overly dependent.

You Worry About Many Issues Other Parents Don’t Worry About

If you’re always the only parent who seems concerned about your 6-year-old playing on the monkey bars at the playground, or you can’t stand the thought of your 13-year-old crossing the street with friends, it can be tempting to assume it’s because you’re more caring than the other parents.

But before drawing that conclusion, consider the possibility that you may be overparenting. If you don’t treat your child like a smart, competent human being, you may be cheating her from reaching her full potential.

You Struggle to Identify Age-Appropriate Expectations

Sometimes, overparenting stems from too high of expectations. For example, a parent may get a child involved in dozens of activities and may even manage a child’s free time to ensure that she’s always being productive.

At other times, overparenting results when parents have expectations that are too low. Parents who don’t believe their child is capable of behaving independently may do everything for him like his homework because they worry their child can’t do it right.

You Argue With Adults Over How They Treat Your Child

If you find yourself frequently arguing with teachers, coaches, daycare providers, and other caregivers about their rules or the way your child is treated, it may mean you’re overparenting.




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