BROKEN TRUST IS A GIFT, AFTERALL
The pain of broken trusts gets our attention. And the deeper and greater the pain, the more apt we are to listen, to feel, and to seek healing. Most of us are generally so desensitised that we can deal with a slight headache. We can even handle a throbbing aggravation without so much as a complaint. We’ll just carry on like normal, the work continues. But when our pain escalates to an unbearable migraine and no prescribed painkiller can offer relief—then we start to pay attention and find it necessary to seek medical assistance.
So the pain from your individual and collective trust violations has reached the excruciating migraine level! This is when you really start to pay attention and questions about your friendships, relationships and even careers come up? You start to ask the questions and notice the things that maybe you wouldn’t have if that trust had not been broken to begin with. Perhaps there were signs like the slight headaches and throbbing discomfort described earlier, but you were desensitised. Too fixated on other things to be bothered by them.
If you’re in this space, it’s difficult to see the silver lining. Why can’t people like God just never disappoint, just not hurt us but relieving that pain, like building trust, is an inside job. It will cost you to break down only to rebuild and be stronger to continue the race of life.
It is only when you have been broken down mentally, emotionally, or spiritually and choose to stand up and keep moving that you can know the true meaning and value of trust.
This piece isn’t for the person seeking for ways to mend their broken trust or heal their pain. It’s for the person looking to find some peace in the midst of their pain. It is to reassure you that you are not alone and at this very point, many people just like you are going through similar pain. Broken trust is inevitable, someone will betray you if they haven’t already. It is left for us to allow the holy spirit wants to use that situation to teach us what our journey requires of us at that point in time. So , by all means cry if you have to, break down if you must, you are human. However, in the process, don’t forget to learn and keep going, also make sure your heart is open because this is the best time for God to speak.
Also, do not let it stop you from trusting. Trust in God and human beings are essential in any relationship but you must also begin with trusting yourself and letting God guide you even as you open your heart.
If you’re reading this and you’re broken, it is my prayer today, that the potter mold you back into shape and help you see this for what it is, an opportunity to learn.