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Are you dating the One?

It boils down to one thing and one thing only. Instincts.

Trust your instincts. It’s so simple that we tend to skip over that asset. Our instincts have been narrowed down to two basic things: Fight or flight. Is it worth fighting for or is it better to let it go?

These are the two questions that you should constantly ask yourself especially at the beginning stages of a relationship where fear is present and can cause you to make some wacky decisions. Allow yourself to trust your instincts. Go with your gut. Follow through with that first thought. Whatever you want to call it, it’s your guide for self-preservation. Women are blessed with it. We know before it happens but many times we fall prey because we choose to ignore it. Maybe if we assume that it doesn’t exist for long enough then it won’t be there.

Often times, we completely ignore our instincts and self-destruct. It’s so much easier than we want to admit to talk yourself into a bad situation with an attractive person who is disrespectful, lazy and swears they are all that but who still buy their undies in the kids section. Or a person who has all of the qualities needed to make it through the long haul, you find yourself allowing fear to choose the flight option. Just like that, you have missed out on something great either by inflicting pain to a kind soul or missing out entirely on a beautiful thing.

The key to trusting your instincts is the certainty that should back it up. Keep in mind it may be subtle or silly and easy to dismiss, but don’t. It is literally the only way you can survive. Fun fact, I don’t have the answers, neither do your girls or your parents, the answer lies with you.

So I’ll ask again, are you dating the one?




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